“LOVE”- An intense feeling of deep affection. This is one of the most talked about topic, like it or not like it; everyone loves to talk about LOVE. This word amazes me because by the millions of explanation people have to offer about it. I think this is the only word that people can go about saying what it means to them even without really experiencing it; Experience will just modify the explanation.
Love is a base, on which our live stands on. Really, from the moment we are conceived to the moment we are born to the moment we achieve things in life to the moment we die with people around us crying- at every stage we are showered with Love. But usually, Love is just associated with your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse. It is not wrong since somewhere these relations make us feel, believe and to a major extent define that intense feeling. The love of family is what we are born with, so usually taken for granted and the love of friends; If you know someone and he is not related to you , he is your Friend and we love all our friends so nothing unique about it, so not valued to the full extent. Then there comes this one person-you are attracted to, some butterfly feelings, excessive care, unlimited pampering, holding hands, hugs, kisses and who makes you feel like you are their world. This person wins the race with your family and friends to let you know what love is.
What is Love according to this person? Love should ideally be an exchange of happiness. It should allow both people to breathe and grow as persons individually as well as together. Somehow, such things are just like fairy tale things and don’t look to people as practical. We get so emotionally attached to people, that in order to love ourselves we need another person or people to value us, to appreciate us, to need us, to love us. It is not wrong to want to be loved, what is wrong is we built such expectations over time from the other person that we then stop valuing the same very things we fell in love with in the first place. I somehow still don’t know why such a beautiful feeling like love brings along emotions like anger, jealousy, possessiveness, etc. Love is a happy feeling so it is bound to bring happiness for you as well as for other person. Love connects you to people, makes you understand things, makes you want to be happy and spread happiness. Love is like an ocean with other emotions being the drops, If the drops taste bitter does ocean still lose its beauty?
A friend of mine rightly says, Love is not a noun to be defined but it is a verb to be acted upon. You have to act in all situations, phases and times to show that you love. I think love is unconditional. If we love someone we would want that person to be happy at all times(with or without you). The moment we start expecting for the other person to behave how we want- it doesn’t mean that you don’t love the other person, it just means you love yourself more than the other person. Love changes and change is always for good. It is how we see and deal that matters the most. Spiritually, what you give is what you get(the Karma effect). Sometimes it is unfortunate that things don't work out, but so what, Life doesn’t come with a guarantee card. Yes, there is a disappointment of things not working out but by turning yourself bitter and saying bitter things to the other person is not going to guarantee either. It will only fade out the feel good memories into bitter ones. Letting go is not easy and holding on gives this sense of comfort and security that we don’t want to lose. Now again, Love looses it purpose of happiness then. Either you are not happy or your actions are not keeping the other person happy. One thing that I have learnt is if you can’t let go then let it be, don’t hold on just hold yourself.
Love has to be unconditionally; if it is with conditions it is not love. Before any negative thought, fight, anger or any other negative emotions for anyone you love, think how much you love them, you love them for what they are and they love you back for what you are. No one said it would be the perfect and flawless ride, but we have to make it a worthy and memorable ride- if not till the end, but at least till their destination.
Love is a base, on which our live stands on. Really, from the moment we are conceived to the moment we are born to the moment we achieve things in life to the moment we die with people around us crying- at every stage we are showered with Love. But usually, Love is just associated with your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse. It is not wrong since somewhere these relations make us feel, believe and to a major extent define that intense feeling. The love of family is what we are born with, so usually taken for granted and the love of friends; If you know someone and he is not related to you , he is your Friend and we love all our friends so nothing unique about it, so not valued to the full extent. Then there comes this one person-you are attracted to, some butterfly feelings, excessive care, unlimited pampering, holding hands, hugs, kisses and who makes you feel like you are their world. This person wins the race with your family and friends to let you know what love is.
What is Love according to this person? Love should ideally be an exchange of happiness. It should allow both people to breathe and grow as persons individually as well as together. Somehow, such things are just like fairy tale things and don’t look to people as practical. We get so emotionally attached to people, that in order to love ourselves we need another person or people to value us, to appreciate us, to need us, to love us. It is not wrong to want to be loved, what is wrong is we built such expectations over time from the other person that we then stop valuing the same very things we fell in love with in the first place. I somehow still don’t know why such a beautiful feeling like love brings along emotions like anger, jealousy, possessiveness, etc. Love is a happy feeling so it is bound to bring happiness for you as well as for other person. Love connects you to people, makes you understand things, makes you want to be happy and spread happiness. Love is like an ocean with other emotions being the drops, If the drops taste bitter does ocean still lose its beauty?
A friend of mine rightly says, Love is not a noun to be defined but it is a verb to be acted upon. You have to act in all situations, phases and times to show that you love. I think love is unconditional. If we love someone we would want that person to be happy at all times(with or without you). The moment we start expecting for the other person to behave how we want- it doesn’t mean that you don’t love the other person, it just means you love yourself more than the other person. Love changes and change is always for good. It is how we see and deal that matters the most. Spiritually, what you give is what you get(the Karma effect). Sometimes it is unfortunate that things don't work out, but so what, Life doesn’t come with a guarantee card. Yes, there is a disappointment of things not working out but by turning yourself bitter and saying bitter things to the other person is not going to guarantee either. It will only fade out the feel good memories into bitter ones. Letting go is not easy and holding on gives this sense of comfort and security that we don’t want to lose. Now again, Love looses it purpose of happiness then. Either you are not happy or your actions are not keeping the other person happy. One thing that I have learnt is if you can’t let go then let it be, don’t hold on just hold yourself.
Love has to be unconditionally; if it is with conditions it is not love. Before any negative thought, fight, anger or any other negative emotions for anyone you love, think how much you love them, you love them for what they are and they love you back for what you are. No one said it would be the perfect and flawless ride, but we have to make it a worthy and memorable ride- if not till the end, but at least till their destination.
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