13 Ways to Remain Happy

Everyone gives their "Gyan" about how to stay happy and so with my 23 years of experience, I shall share  some of my "Gyan" on this topic too. Just for people who are wondering why is it an odd and a devil number 13, because it is my lucky number (no other logic or superstition involved).

1. Be true to yourself. Have and stand by your own opinion/feelings. You are not suppose to feel or agree to what others feel about anything. People who love you won't judge you for it and those who judge you, forgive them for doing so, because as you have your opinion they have theirs.
2. If you do not like something that someone else does or says, please tell them.
3. Communicate. NOT by text or emails or chatting but by Calling on the phone or by Meeting in person.Technology may be good but it has its own perils. Don't let the tradition affection of seeing or talking to each other die.
4. Do not over analyse what others have said as to Why he said? What he meant? What was his intention?. Take things at the face of it. Don't dig deeper with your thoughts.
5. Every relation has a downfall- Accept this fact, be patient and keep trying to get it on track.
6. Tackle your insecurities. People love you for what you are and people love others for what they are. There is no comparison. If there is a comparison, then step back and continue living your life happily.
7. Pen down your thoughts. Everything cannot be said, so write it down - It will help to bring your emotion down and you can also send it to the other person to let them know what you feel. (Point 2)
8. Cry it out. It is okay to cry. It makes you feel better.
9. Do what you like to distract yourself from your worries and to feel good by doing what you like.
10. Eat.Pray.Love. - Eat your favorite food (you can try cooking as a relief buster), Pray/ Meditate to organize your thoughts and feel some peace and Love yourself and others- You get nothing by hating anyone but by loving you at least stay in peace.
11. Stop cribbing. Once you feel that you are cribbing way too much. Please see the news to know the suffering in the world.You will be thankful and feel blessed
12. People and things in life are meant to keep you happy, if it is not keeping you happy either find a solution or move on.Shit happens. Everything happens for a reason.
13. There are people who are dying to see you happy and are happy because you are happy. So, Be Happy.

Happiness is contagious. xoxo.

Her Diary

Life is so simple yet in so many ways complicated. We humans are so complicated in the head that we end up complicating everything. We meet people, interact, have fun, like some, dislike some, fall for some, some fall for us, while all this looks happy and simple by the word of it, but yet these things are so complicated. Well, if things were so simple, life would not have been interesting. Having an interesting life and a simple life is an irony in itself.

My friend  Avantika, a sweet bubbly girl in nature and very likable, is going through a break-up. Now a days breakup isn't that big a deal but she is my friend, and her pain is my pain. She had a good long relation, the guy was decent too. He did not cheat on her nor did she cheat on him. But, just their differences became too big for them to handle. She is hurt that her relation is breaking and that she is not able to do anything to keep it together. I know she tried to, but sometimes the differences are so big that even the people involved do not have any control over them.

Pain and ego may be enemies to us but together their friendship is a disaster for us. When we get hurt by the people we love, there is a pain that we experience and that pain over the times nurtures our ego in such a way that  ego is then dependent on the pain. Lot of “experienced blessed souls” tell us that we should kill our ego, which is by all means true and I abide by it, but is killing your ego that easy?

Avantika, really loved Rahul (her boyfriend) and even he loved her dearly, but with these differences somewhere their power of love was losing. Again, when the “experienced blessed souls” tell us that love has the greatest power to overcome anything, did they really mean it or it just sounded right to say?

It is really sad that relations break and feelings become sour. When everything starts with like and love then why do they end up with anger and hatred. May be hatred is too big a word, I think they are just too painful souls who cannot carry their own pain and therefore find it easier to blame it on the other.

Avantika asks me many questions- “Why did this happen?” “Why did he do this?” “Why this can’t work?”...etc. These are just too many questions for which I am trying my best to give her positive and feel good answers, believing which she may feel better. I am playing my role of her friend and also praying that her questions get answered soon. The truth is some questions always just remain questions for a very long time, but eventually we do find the answers and or may be believe that this was the answer. Till then our life journey goes on, may be with an unfilled space in our mind and heart but still with the hope of finding the answer one day , it goes on.

We all are so caught up in different emotions that with time we bury them in ourselves. We do not realize that what situation or person or thing may bring up those emotions back on the surface and then we are again caught up in our unanswered questions and the never ending hope.

I am there with Avantika to support her throughout, to tell her all the kind and great words like “All will be ok” “It was meant to be” etc but deep down she and I both know that it is her battle that she will have to fight it, first with herself then with the world and I am just a soldier who would be supporting her till she wins the battle and even after.