Gossip Girl.. xoxo

"Let’s Gossip!”-the most loved phrase by all, especially by the feminine gender. Everyone just loves to gossip. As per Wikipedia, Gossip is idle talk or rumour, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. So true! Somehow we humans, derive innate pleasure by knowing and talking about others personal things, with obviously everyone’s addition of their imagination and thoughts to it.  

Gossip is not exactly a positive word, because we never Gossip about Good things! It is all about those things that are not to be spilled out or to be kept under wraps. On another thought, life would actually be boring if there were no Gossips. Seeing the bright side, Gossip helps in social bonding with people since we are sharing information with them. And plus, gossip is a good tactic to always be in the limelight. Good or bad, end of the day people are talking about you. That’s how celebrities and socialites, maintain their popularity status. The mentality in today's world is that the only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.

With all the Social networking, World’s becomes a smaller place and even our personal lives have become smaller. We share our lives with others, allowing them to comment on it and like/dislike it. Knowingly or unknowingly we have become the person who would for a while want to forget what’s happening our lives and be curious to know what’s happening in others life. As they say, when you hear someone in problem, your problem seems less painful. How much ever anyone denies that they don’t gossip or not interested in other peoples life, a part of them doesn’t agree to it.

Gossip girl, the American teen drama television series, undoubtedly one of my favorite series to watch since it feels good to see all the drama, mind games and scheming, that gossip causes. But then, I can never imagine being a part of such drama. At times the fiction life is not always the reality we want or want to be in. It straight forward conveys the message-“Gossip creates the unwanted drama, out of lives of other people, in your life”.

We actually cannot say whether Gossiping is a good thing or a bad thing. The basic logic that too much of anything is not good should be applied. Yes we all can Gossip, since it is somehow blissful to Gossip. But sometimes we just over do it. We should keep gossiping as a fun thing and not use it to spoil someone’s relation or reputation or just make a big deal out of it. It’s totally not cool! Do we not have enough things to worry in our lives that we actually want to talk about other people’s worries, problems and lives and waste our energy and our peace of mind? Think about it and don’t forget we all have our own little secrets.

Love to Love !

“LOVE”- An intense feeling of deep affection. This is one of the most talked about topic, like it or not like it; everyone loves to talk about LOVE. This word amazes me because by the millions of explanation people have to offer about it. I think this is the only word that people can go about saying what it means to them even without really experiencing it; Experience will just modify the explanation.

Love is a base, on which our live stands on. Really, from the moment we are conceived to the moment we are born to the moment we achieve things in life to the moment we die with people around us crying- at every stage we are showered with Love. But usually, Love is just associated with your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse. It is not wrong since somewhere these relations make us feel, believe and to a major extent define that intense feeling. The love of family is what we are born with, so usually taken for granted and the love of friends; If you know someone and he is not related to you , he is your Friend and we love all our friends so nothing unique about it, so not valued to the full extent. Then there comes this one person-you are attracted to, some butterfly feelings, excessive care, unlimited pampering, holding hands, hugs, kisses and who makes you feel like you are their world. This person wins the race with your family and friends to let you know what love is.

What is Love according to this person? Love should ideally be an exchange of happiness. It should allow both people to breathe and grow as persons individually as well as together. Somehow, such things are just like fairy tale things and don’t look to people as practical. We get so emotionally attached to people, that in order  to love ourselves we need another person or people to value us, to appreciate us, to need us, to love us. It is not wrong to want to be loved, what is wrong is we built such expectations over time from the other person that we then stop valuing the same very things we fell in love with in the first place. I somehow still don’t know why such a beautiful feeling like love brings along emotions like anger, jealousy, possessiveness, etc. Love is a happy feeling so it is bound to bring happiness for you as well as for other person. Love connects you to people, makes you understand things, makes you want to be happy and spread happiness. Love is like an ocean with other emotions being the drops, If the drops taste bitter does ocean still lose its beauty?

A friend of mine rightly says, Love is not a noun to be defined but it is a verb to be acted upon. You have to act in all situations, phases and times to show that you love. I think love is unconditional. If we love someone we would want that person to be happy at all times(with or without you). The moment we start expecting for the other person to behave how we want- it doesn’t mean that you don’t love the other person, it just means you love yourself more than the other person. Love changes and change is always for good. It is how we see and deal that matters the most. Spiritually, what you give is what you get(the Karma effect). Sometimes it is unfortunate that things don't work out, but so what, Life doesn’t come with a guarantee card. Yes, there is a disappointment of things not working out but by turning yourself bitter and saying bitter things to the other person is not going to guarantee either. It will only fade out the feel good memories into bitter ones. Letting go is not easy and holding on gives this sense of comfort and security that we don’t want to lose. Now again, Love looses it purpose of happiness then. Either you are not happy or your actions are not keeping the other person happy. One thing that I have learnt is if you can’t let go then let it be, don’t hold on just hold yourself.

Love has to be unconditionally; if it is with conditions it is not love. Before any negative thought, fight, anger or any other negative emotions for anyone you love, think how much you love them, you love them for what they are and they love you back for what you are. No one said it would be the perfect and flawless ride, but we have to make it a worthy and memorable ride- if not till the end, but at least till their destination.

You are Your People !

Life is the greatest learning place ever. All that one needs to do is, take a break and observe- say nothing,hear everything. Listen and feel your every thought with every word and action –heard and done. Just try and analyze how various thoughts arise, link and how new ones are formed. It gives an insight, I don’t know exactly about what but probably an insight to us, an insight to human behavior or an insight to how emotions and thoughts work with and within us.
That was way too much of philosophy, but yes this was the base to the thought of my today’s blog.
Have you ever wondered, like when we achieve something, will we be equally happy about it, if, when we dint have people to share the achievement with, as we would be when we have someone to share it with ? I don’t think so. I don’t think then that achievement would ever matter- it would be as good as achieving nothing. So yes, somewhere it is true and you would agree that nothing is more important in your life than the people in your life. They define your Achievement, Success and Happiness.
The People in your life, different in their own ways, some have left, some have stayed and some are yet to come; have all defined and will be defining a part of you at every stage. So, we should be thankful to each and every person in our lives, even those who have left, because your past was your present defining moment once. There are also people, who may have given you bitter experiences (as you think), I would call them Angel in Disguise, who taught me those things, that were needed to be learnt , may be not in the best way but for some best reason.

Sometimes, we can’t stop disliking, hating or doing ill things to others - after all we are humans, so it is totally normal. But, what we can do or probably we can make an effort to do is that, if at any point in life we realize what we did was wrong, we could at the least Apologize! (Not that difficult). I agree one can’t be sorry for everything or sorry cannot replace for what one did, but, realizing one’s mistake and making an effort to be brave enough to say sorry, will any day make a better you(if not anything). When you find difficulty, in forgiving someone, just ask yourself -how many times people have forgiven you for your mistakes? If you can be forgiven, so can they be.

Appreciate and be thankful that you have people in your life. Give them the priority they deserve over other things. Your people give your things the meaning; things don’t give you any meaning. To fight, hate, not talk, etc all are ok- But, all are Ok Only for Some Time. Say Sorry, Forgive, Forget, Love and Spread Happiness- Because one day you will stand at a place where nothing else would matter more than YOUR PEOPLE!

Parvarish- A Salute to Parents!

Parvarish (HINDI) – Ward (ENGLISH); used as a verb to guard or protect. When this verb is used in context of Parents being a ward to their children, they in all sense define it.
The Promos of a New programme, “Parvarish Kuch Khatti Kuch Meethi”, soon to be aired on a Hindi Television Channel actually made me thinking “What a difficult task it is to be a Parent?”. The promos show the different roles that parents play at different times while bringing up their kids- be it a detective, bodyguard, nurse, etc. Just take a moment and think, our parents have played the same roles- Varied universal roles that Parents are required to play till the end.

As individuals, it is easy to learn and do things. But, when as an individual they are suppose to make someone else learn(who doesn’t know anything), imbibe morals, values, protect them from the wrong ,provide the emotional and mental stability, strength, courage etc and while doing all this fighting their own fears like; what if I lose my child? What if he/she doesn’t turn out to be good? What if I don’t succeed as a parent? And many more such What ifs? – What role could be more challenging and at the end satisfying than that of Being a Parent.

We as kids play our roles of questioning their acts, fighting, rebelling and over all giving them a tough time. I think it’s normal, normal until we haven’t matured as individuals but after that stage, it is the stubbornness that “My parents don’t understand!” and our human ego “‘I’ want to do this” . Thinking of which, tomorrow even I am going to be a parent and one day my kid(s) are going to tell me the same. As they say, it’s Karma! It is true sometimes one doesn’t realize the other persons role unless they come (or about to) in a situation when they have to play the same role.

The point of writing this is Realization. Now that little bit that I feel I have realized what my parents have gone through to bring us (me and brother) up, I want to thank them for their Parvarish- for turning us out to individuals that are doing well in life, are happy and somewhere down just praying that they could turn out to be parents, if not equally wonderful but just close.

Sony Entertainment Television will be soon airing a new programme “Parvarish Kuch Khatti Kuch Meethi” from 21th November, 2011 Mon-Fri at 9.30pm.
Enjoy the show and Be grateful to your Parents- because they deserve it!