The Devil Within Us !

Sometimes life is so weird that everything is nothing but just so weird. It is weird to talk to your own friends and talk to people who are common between your friends and you. So many relations are so dependent on each other and just so connected that if one goes for a toss everything is gone for a toss. 

Everything is so complicated once we start growing up. As a friend told me the other day "Ego is a B!tch"- it cannot be less true as you start growing up. Ego literally takes out the life out of anything. Ego may come in different (s)words like self-respect, view point, judgement, etc but at the end of the day it is a devil. Someone has rightly expanded Ego as "Exit God Out" because with this ego we forget everything nice, we forget what it is to forgive or to love or to spread happiness.

I have always had this question- If I don't have ego, is it enough to sustain anything? I don't think so, may be people will like you for this, may be you will always make your relations work because of this, may be you will easily let go things but it is still not enough to sustain. You can do this over and over again but eventually one day you will require someone else to let go of their ego to sustain. Letting go of someone's else ego is next to impossible. 

Some situations in life are such that you don't know which path to take, where to go, whom to go to, how to go. Questions will be left answered and the human curiosity will make us want answers for those questions and we would end up doing anything to get our answers.We need to understand not everything has an answer and if it has not everything will be answered at that moment.

When we are tired of doing everything possible the only thing that you can do is Pray- to give you strength, to forgive, for things to be fine and for us to learn and grow as a person. In difficult times, to have patience is very difficult, but that is what we need to have to observe, digest everything around and to look ahead with a clearer vision.

At the end of any day, we all have to go to bed with our own conscious; have a conscious and your inner self clear and pure enough to sleep peacefully at night. Sweet Dreams. Good Night.

Flying on Your Own

Independence as a word itself is so impactful and liberating, that everyone wants to experience it in their life. We live in an independent country but somewhere everyone is still fighting a battle to be personally independent in terms of their dependency on family, friends, work or some other addiction. Everyone wants to be a free bird, having just the right amount of dependency but at the end of the day they want to experience to fly on their own; the intent is not to fly alone but to fly on their own.

When we are growing up, that is the time we have the major dependency on everything possible. But as we grow then we want to have “our own space”. We all want to come over the dependency we needed/loved while growing up. I think it is more because earlier we are not figuring out or thinking about our own identity but as we grow we have a perception about our self, we have our “personal identity” and to sustain this identity we need to fly (be independent) so that everyone can see that we are capable of flying on our own.

Flying on our own has its own high; the feeling of independence is just so “feel-good-about-yourself” feeling. It is nice to know we can do things on our own and to also let people know we are capable of doing things on our own. People who have always been dependent (not being judgemental about anyone), but for them to experience this feeling is very essential. It is more about knowing you more and just not knowing others or knowing you through others. It is all about exploring the heights u can fly on your own. Being dependent may be a very secured feeling but in process it is more of losing yourself (largely). As we hear and say it is all about “balanced life”; I think we all need to balance out with being independent and dependent.

The most common situation that comes to my mind about fighting for independence is between parents and children. Of course, children grow and then they are no more children and they have turned into young adults and adults need their “own space”. But parents remain parents and children would remain their children no matter how young or old adults they become. We all know that it is very difficult to let go, it takes lot of time to let go off things and here we are expecting parents to let go off their children so that they can have their “own space”. I mean I am sure it is difficult for them and of all the stories they hear as to “uske saath yeh hua” (this is what happened to him/her, it makes it all the more difficult for them to let go. When people can’t let go of their bf/gf/ex’s; here we are expecting parents to let go off their children.Moreover, we need to develop some trust and give some time to actually have our own space , we cannot just have all of it at one time.

I think this generation has lot of peer pressure and the size of our “own space” depends more on how much space their peers have. Also, this generation gives too much importance to being independent at a very early stage. But I have seen, eventually you get independent. The young generation define independence as being able to drink, party late night, not ask too many questions, not intrude in their so called personal life etc. But let’s take a step back and ask- Is this really what independence is all about? Are these things really giving you your personal identity or they or more like defining your choices?

Well, for me independence is being able to do my things on my own, to earn a living for myself and for those connected to me and also about making others a part of my independent life so that they don’t have to let go of me and I don’t have to fight for my independence . We don’t fight for independence ,we make ourselves so capable enough for others to know that we are independent.